Banshees of Inisherin
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Conflict without repair has always been challenging for me, but this movie portrayed it so perfectly. I still remember when my best friend and I stopped talking to each other for three years.
We were driving to Colorado through a beautiful mountain range while our voices were shouting over each other. We were inseparable in high school - everyone asked if we were dating or if we were siblings.
At the time, I was upset that his girlfriend was taking up more of his time. He felt like I was being too controlling and not communicating when I was upset. After many arguments, we reached a breaking point, and I had enough. We stopped talking.
We’re both stubborn people, kind of like the two men in this movie - and unfortunately, we kept exacerbating the issue. One of us missed the others’ birthday. The other decided to leave a group chat we were in. And then, silence, just like Pádraic and Colm.
Luckily, my friend and I eventually resolved our conflict. But what I love about the movie is that it portrays a very realistic and tragic decline of close friendship over time. Sometimes, you can resolve conflict, through therapy, mediation, talking things through.
Other times, as in the movie, two people’s conflict and personality clashes can escalate to a point beyond return. I found this movie so painful to watch because it’s not like any individual was at fault. It makes me feel more thankful for the relationships that I do have - and respect and a bit of grief for the ones I’ve lost.
PS: Poor Jenny :(.
